Do you have a Facebook crush?
Did you want to ask out that girl you met at the party but you didn’t get her phone number?
How should you contact her? When should you contact her? What message should you send?
No need to agonize over the right thing to write. Here’s exactly how to ask a girl out on Facebook even if you don’t have her phone number:
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Shogo Garcia is an internationally experienced coach, writer, speaker, and the founder of The Social Generation. His insights on the interactions between today’s men and women have helped clients around the world make profound breakthroughs toward confidently communicating and connecting with the women in their lives.
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alright man, ill be honest and give it a shot.
dude you know what it kinda sorta worked…… that girl messaged me after 10 days…. saying she cant cause she dont know me
hey bro i added her and then i told her why i added her, i told her about one day we met and talked, but she hasnt replied for like 3 days, so i guess ill have to keep trying. if it doesnt work. well i guess there are alot of fish in the sea.
yooo thanks 4 your advice ive asked her out and she wants to but she wants me to do it more romanticly wat do i say
what happens when she dosen’t anser
What happens when she doesn’t answer????????? -_-
My right eat is having a party ahaaaa
Dude good advice I got her number now were talking and planning to have lunch together.
I only comment on videos like this to make fun of them
Hey i do not know if you are going to read this, whatever you said was like an ideal thing in my case to brief you up : i do not know this girl but i had already added her on FB , a mutual frnd of mine ask her come down and join in for a party i really dint get to talk to her the only opportunity that i got was to drop her to her home some miles away so i just did wat u said a Simple message over her FB profile sayin what u said , but still no reply now what should i do?
What did you write her?
Nothing. You move on to the next girl. The bigger picture is that you take every the opportunities that come your way and you do what is in your power to make shit happen. She wasn’t into it? You don’t care. She wasn’t for you. Next. There’s another girl walking down the street in 15 minutes who you’re going to be just as, if not more, attracted to.
Tell her to send you her phone number so you can it more romantically. Then you call her and ask her out in person. Tell her you have candles going, you just made yourself a bubble bath, and you’re playing Barry White in the background. You know, to set the mood so you can ask her out romantically :)
Great job sending her the message, even if she didn’t reply. You’ve already done it once, so from now on it’s simple.
If you didn’t actually ask her out but you just said that you met her once, you need to get up the guts to make her take action. Tell her you’d love to meet up some time and get to know each other a bit. Tell her of your favorite spot to hang out at and that you want to take her there–anything, but remember that you have to actually take action, not just say “Hi”
Good, but don’t just let it go there. Now you tell her “You’re right, we don’t know each other. That’s why we have to hang out and talk first :) Tell you what: I’ve really been craving waffles lately. I need my waffle fix this weekend and I know the best place in town. Up for a little waffle adventure with me this Sunday?”
This is about asking her out on Facebook when you’ve missed or didn’t get a chance to do it in person.
Y’all pussy whipped. For real. Fuck these bitches….PERIOD. Lie to them, get the pussy, and bounce. She will never know what hit her; except for that human dildo from the back. Fuck these hoes!!!
thank u ive asked her out about 2 weeks ago but ill use ur advice some other time :)
Hi shogo,
so i went out on a first date with this girl. the date went well and i texted her a day later to hang out but she said she was busy so i deleted her number thinking maybe she will text me first later on. but she didnt so i found her on facebook and added her. now i still dont have her number but i wanted to ask her out for saturday night. how should i do this ? its been about a week since we went on that first date. pl help me. thanks
A good lesson for you is that you shouldn’t delete a girl’s number again. I’m guessing the reason you did this is because you got angry she didn’t reply. Remember it’s just one girl out of many you will meet, so never take it personally. If she’s busy, follow up and find a time she’s not busy. Don’t wait for her to tell you. If she’s ALWAYS busy, move on.
Send her a message like this: “Hey Susie, I don’t have your number any more (really crazy story I have to tell you abt in person!) so you’ll have to send it to me again. Give me your number soon though because there’s a great place I want to take you to on Friday that you’re absolutely going to love! Looking forward to it and talk soon :)”
If she doesn’t respond, forget it and move on. DON’T delete her from anything again, including FB, because you never know what may happen down the road.
she ignored you because you came off as needy. that’s a turnoff to women. even if she likes you, she think you’ll turn out as a suffocating boyfriend or worse a stalker. next time, wait three days after first date to call her to set up second date. see her only once a week for a month. i know it’s hard if you like her but control your emotions. act indifferent. normally after a month, she’ll start calling and pursuing you. btw, if you want her #, check your cell bill or call your cell company.
Hey Shogo
I asked a girl out and she is dating one of my friends…should I wait till they break up or try to break them up?
haha your funny cuz I always do that.
fuck u find a driferent one
“direct, honest to the point.” is now engrained into my brain. Sir you speak the truth, gut instinct really works every time ive gone with my gut it works. dont 2nd guess. and if she says no; so what move on. its worse if u dont try.
So true, gut instinct is the only thing that works. If you use some system or if you overthink it, it may work for a day, or until you get her number, or until you go on a date. After that you’re screwed because you weren’t being real. If you want to either (a) keep her around or (b) have her respect you later (which I think most men do), then gut instinct is the only thing you can do.
what if shes just a random friend who i found through my mutual fb friends….?
My left ear is lonly
What if the first think u think is “Fuck Me”
But your Right side…got the Right Advice lol
Hi shogo
thanks for help
No problem Karam, new videos coming soon!
That’s tricky. Not sure how to advise you, sorry. I don’t contact people I don’t know online unless I’ve met them in person first. But that’s just me.
If you really want to contact her, try it out and see what happens. Bottom line: make sure she knows you saw her through a friend and you don’t know each other in person yet. Don’t make something up that’s not real, and it will take you much farther…
^ Never do this.
That’s right ninja!
Hey Jackass,You Ruined My Chances….Good Goin’
Oh really??
Send me a screenshot of what you actually wrote her–then we’ll talk.
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The Point Is,Shogo,That You Think Every Girl Is The Same And That Every Girl Has The Same Reaction To The Same Fucked Up Advice…I Said Exacly What The Video Said To Say Because I Was Typing It While Listening To Your Advice…The Girl I Was Asking Out USED To Be My Best Freind Who I Never See Anymore….So Thats Why It Pissed Me Off So Much When She Said “I Have To Eat Dinner,BYE!” At 11pm
1. This video is not advice on how to ask out your best friend.
2. Even if it was, and your best friend never wants to see you again for expressing your true feelings, was she really your best friend?
3. This is a 3 minute YouTube video. What is the real reason for the way you feel?
Im Sure She Would Want To See Me As Much As I Want To See Her,And Yes,She Was My Best Freind For 3 Years,I Actually Got To Thinking And Realized,Her Mom Has Always Been Strict On Her About Dating….So Maybe It’s Not Her Saying No But Its Her Mom Saying No…..Some Parents Are Just Like That,You Know What I Mean?
Good advice dude. Cheers !
Subscribed.
Please put subtitles to your videos the next ones…
His voice is pretty motivational, I like this guy.
Hey Shogo I have a question about what can I do if I text a girl and she doesn’t text me back. I just followed your advice and she didn’t respond. Please help me figure out what I should do?
Hey Gei Fei, I just did a video on this and will posting it soon! Stay tuned…
hi shogo
a week ago i hanged out with my friend and i met a girl that has common friend with me.
i didnt realy talk to her couse i was shy. we said to each other maybe 4-5 words…
i added her on facebook.should i do what you said in this video ? or it would be wired ?