"Sometimes the best parts of a conversation are the moments of silence in between the action, when nothing is said."
It’s an eternal question: You’re in conversation with a great woman you’ve recently met. Everything seems to be going great, when suddenly . . . you run out of things to say. She says nothing. You say nothing. Silence. You smile briefly and look away. Maybe take a quick glance at your phone? Nope, no [...]
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"It’s funny how the women we're really attracted to don’t fall for the act. It’s funny how they see right through the lines and the games."
In the first article, we began with understanding our fear of rejection. Accepting the reality of rejection is the first step to overcoming that fear. But why are we afraid of rejection? Where does it come from? Let’s go back to a familiar scenario: You’re standing at a bar. Right next to you are two beautiful [...]
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"When we seek to understand our fears, they tend to dissolve. When we avoid our fears, they remain hidden and they grow."
There is a common fear among men who are seeking to go out and meet new women. It’s a deeply-rooted fear, one that is often termed “approach anxiety.” If you’ve never heard of “approach anxiety” before, here is the scenario: You’re out and about, maybe at a bar or a coffee shop. You see a [...]
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"There's no need stare at your phone endlessly, constantly revising and searching for just the right words to text a woman. The anxiety is all in your head..."
Stop worrying about what to text her! There’s no need stare at your phone endlessly, constantly revising and searching for just the right words to text a woman. The anxiety is all in your head. In this video I explain where you are caught up and why you are doubting yourself, along with a few [...]
"The men who naturally attract women into their lives have taken the time to think about what qualities turn them on in a woman. They look at what they desire and crave, and they are not willing to sleep with just anyone."
On my flight from Beirut to London yesterday, I had a great conversation with a group of fun, intelligent, and attractive girls (just the kind any guy would want to meet) who were returning home to London after getting down with the Beirut nightlife at a bachelorette party. Now these girls were very confident, outgoing, and [...]
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"How should you contact her? When should you contact her? What message should you send?"
Do you have a Facebook crush? Did you want to ask out that girl you met at the party but you didn’t get her phone number? How should you contact her? When should you contact her? What message should you send? No need to agonize over the right thing to write. Here’s exactly how to [...]
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"If she doesn't remember who you are, she's not going to call you back."
I was having a late dinner and some drinks at the bar of a crowded restaurant in the West Village recently. While I was in conversation with my companion, I noticed a man hovering around and talking to practically every woman or group of women standing or sitting around the bar area. He was full of [...]
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"Self-belief can be extremely empowering if you can harness it, but it can also be the most crippling force behind how we act around and communicate with other people."
Do your conversations constantly fall flat because all do is ask the boring and dull questions? It’s all in the power of your own self-belief. Self-belief can be extremely empowering if you harness it effectively, but it can also be the most crippling force behind how we act around and communicate with other people. Watch [...]
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"Most people in bars are afraid of showing that they are vulnerable, and most people are afraid of being judged by others. Everyone’s afraid that if they fail, they’re going to look stupid in front of the crowd."
I’ll let you in on something: a bar is not my favorite place to meet women. If you’re looking for more than a quick hookup that night, if you’re looking to find someone you actually connect with and have something in common with, bars and clubs are not be the best place to find [...]
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"You may be surprised at how simple it is to understand your inner thought process when you start looking at it from a fresh perspective...."
Do you find your conversations with the opposite sex tend to be dull and boring? Are you stuck in a rut when you try to strike up new conversations, especially with women? Find out why this is happening and learn what you can start implementing to change this recurring behavior. You may be surprised at [...]
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Shogo Garcia is an internationally experienced coach, writer, speaker, and the founder of The Social Generation. His insights on the interactions between today’s men and women have helped clients around the world make profound breakthroughs toward confidently communicating and connecting with the women in their lives.